Saturday, August 22, 2009

A Birthday Tea Party for Ava

Today I would like to introduce you to a story. The story is of a 3 year old self proclaimed Super princess who left her family 3 years ago and leaves behind a heartbroken family trying to find a "new normal". Her Mummy Shaye Rosemeyer has documented the life of little Ava with soul piercing photos and words that will bring you to tears every time.
Today is her 6th Birthday and this is the perfect time to tell of her effect on me and to hopefully introduce a new outlook on mothering

I first came to Shaye Rosemeyer's blog to see her stunning photography. I then learned there was much I has missed. I read through her archives and have never felt such a pain. I have never experienced a feeling of loss. I am not familiar with death. I've had loved ones go, a grandmother, a childhood puppy but nothing that genuinely breaks my heart and opens my eyes to life like Shaye does with Ava's story.

I became a mother for the first time when I was 18 and then 15 months later had my daughter Valencia and 15 months later had my 3rd and last baby, Valoria. Life so often for me became mundane.
Their pregnancies and births were easy. I've never really had to go through a hard time and while I felt blessed I've never taken a look at life as I do now. Ava's story has matured me as a Mother. I'm no longer an unattached Mom with 3 babies.
I cherish and hug them, talk to them about anything and everything. I stop what I'm doing regularly now to stare at them, walk over and give them kisses. I hug them till they tell me to stop. I read to them now, I sing to them and scratch their backs now at bedtime when I used to only lead them to there rooms and be grateful it was time to relax.
Many, many times her posts have effected me deeply and I've felt pyhsical pain for her. Shaye is such an astoundingly strong woman to share her life, emotions, most of all the life of her daughter with anyone who will go to her blog.
Today the girls got new tea party dresses, snacks, cookies and pink lemonade and we went to their favorite spot on earth (Grandma and Papas backyard) and we had the most wonderful normal Happy day just like Shaye wanted.
I would recommend reading her story and giving big long "Ava" hugs to your kids and loved ones EVERY day, multiple times a day! Do silly things when your kids ask, Have a party when there is no reason for one. Read more about the life of Ava here at Rose ShayeMeyer Photography


Our Green Nest said...

I'm off to her blog now but these pictures are beautiful - such pretty little princesses!

CelticWoman said...

what a story, what a sharing, what fragile beauty, what strength, what blessings. I have been to church without leaving the farm. Thank you

Diane said...

What a beautiful tea party and such wonderful thoughts of the short and once in a lifetime experience we all have with our children. Yesterday I spent the day with loved ones and it was a beautiful day full of love and joy. Take care
Hugs, Diane

Elise said...

Hello, I'm leaving you a comment because you have the most lovely blog. Fantastic writing and I love your pics as well. Best wishes !

Sharon said...

The girls look just beautiful. What a sweet way to honor Ava's sweet little soul. Thank you for sharing. I shall go over now a read her blog. Sharon

Jessica at Kids Napping? I'm Scrapping! said...

What a sweet party- and such a touching story... :)

Martha said...

Hi Angela...I have visited her blog off of yours ahile back...and as soon as I saw her picture...the entire story just came to my mind from reading it...and needless to definitely brought me to tears...the sweetness of that face and her touching words are sure to make an impression on anyone... thank you for sharing your beautiful tea party with your beautiful angels!!! I love your pictures of them...and just adore your wonderful ideas and are a terrific person...and I have enjoyed every moment of getting to know you so much! Thank you for all of your thoughts and inspiration!

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for bringing this story to light...your tribute to Ava is beautiful as are your daughters....Abby:)

Shari Replogle said...

What a lovely tea party, and a beautiful tribute . Thank you for sharing it.
Thank you for visiting my blog, and congratulations to you as well! Your article is wonderful. I see we both love all things a little tattered, worn, aged, and loved.

PAPER GIRL said...

...How lovely Angela:
Your photography is just beautiful. It's the kind of Tea Party I would like to have for my granddaughters -- if only I could get them to sit still :-)

Nice to meet you. Thanks for sharing.


shabbyscraps said...

such beautiful girls and photos ! Love the post...
xoxo, Tiffany

Elena Lai Etcheverry said...

these photos are beautiful! These girls are adorable in their party dresses. I am off to read Shaye's blog. Thank you for sharing~

Ragamuffin Gal said...

Beautiful story and such pretty pictures! I'm going to check out her blog now! Blessings, kt

Tammy said...

Your little angels are absolutely gorgeous in their new tea party dresses and with their golden locks flowing. How precious is this post. I love that you shared it with us.