Saturday, August 22, 2009
Today I would like to introduce you to a story. The story is of a 3 year old self proclaimed Super princess who left her family 3 years ago and leaves behind a heartbroken family trying to find a "new normal". Her Mummy Shaye Rosemeyer has documented the life of little Ava with soul piercing photos and words that will bring you to tears every time.
Today is her 6th Birthday and this is the perfect time to tell of her effect on me and to hopefully introduce a new outlook on mothering
I first came to Shaye Rosemeyer's blog to see her stunning photography. I then learned there was much I has missed. I read through her archives and have never felt such a pain. I have never experienced a feeling of loss. I am not familiar with death. I've had loved ones go, a grandmother, a childhood puppy but nothing that genuinely breaks my heart and opens my eyes to life like Shaye does with Ava's story.
I became a mother for the first time when I was 18 and then 15 months later had my daughter Valencia and 15 months later had my 3rd and last baby, Valoria. Life so often for me became mundane.
Their pregnancies and births were easy. I've never really had to go through a hard time and while I felt blessed I've never taken a look at life as I do now. Ava's story has matured me as a Mother. I'm no longer an unattached Mom with 3 babies.
I cherish and hug them, talk to them about anything and everything. I stop what I'm doing regularly now to stare at them, walk over and give them kisses. I hug them till they tell me to stop. I read to them now, I sing to them and scratch their backs now at bedtime when I used to only lead them to there rooms and be grateful it was time to relax.
Many, many times her posts have effected me deeply and I've felt pyhsical pain for her. Shaye is such an astoundingly strong woman to share her life, emotions, most of all the life of her daughter with anyone who will go to her blog.
Today the girls got new tea party dresses, snacks, cookies and pink lemonade and we went to their favorite spot on earth (Grandma and Papas backyard) and we had the most wonderful normal Happy day just like Shaye wanted.
I would recommend reading her story and giving big long "Ava" hugs to your kids and loved ones EVERY day, multiple times a day! Do silly things when your kids ask, Have a party when there is no reason for one. Read more about the life of Ava here at Rose ShayeMeyer Photography